comments on comments
upon gaining my first couple of comments when this blog originated, i quickly became addicted.
to assure the readers of my appreciation, as well as, admittedly, spike the quantity, i changed the title of the blog to "i'll admit it, i just really want you to comment."
after two years of of being MIA, i was concerned that my newest entry would go unread, and worse, un commented upon.
i decided the best way to alert those interested in all things judy was to change my facebook status.
since immediately after the post no comments had been made, i was forced to neurotically check the amount of views feature on my flickr pictures and blog profile to guage my self worth.
it was clear that people were viewing ... but silently - i wondered if people didn't want to confess viewership.
days later, four (4) comments surfaced - i am, if not confused, at least surprised at the change in commenting form.
my facebook wall?
a small digression: i am (as with everything else) excessively neurotic about facebook wall posting. i feel like it originates from the friendster testimonial feature - allowing you to talk about that person to other people viewing their page.
ex: "judy spends too much energy on meta blog entries and instead should try to be a decent human being and call her grandmother."
but wall posting in it's ugliest form has morphed into an unabashed way of having other people see your communication with a person, which i can only assume is a way to show how close/cool you two are.
ex: "remember that time 2952302 boys asked for our number but we didn't even NOTICE because we were really engaged in talking about postmodernism?"
how is this excusable? it is the same amount of ease to wall post as it is to message - so there is a clear intention in wall posting that i personally can only condone for myself in very limited situations. (though, obviously, i LOVE it when people post on my wall)
so, in light of the fact that i am equally obsessed with the concept of wall posting and the wish of people to comment on my blog, but am confused at how these two have merged, i have no choice but to go through my comments from least to most surprising.
1) berna conner - my sister's bestie
technologically, the only thing berna seems to do more avidly than blog is facebook. this makes me feel alright about my own excessive facebooking, as she is not remotely lame. also, she's hot. see?:
as most of my wall posts are love from berna, it makes the most sense that she would find my facebook wall the most natural place to express love of my blog update. i still find it a little strange, but not disconcerting.
2) amy preiser - my bestie
amy overcompensates for how uncool facebooking is by intentionally honing the image of her extremely limited facebook participation. she has only once uploaded pictures on facebook, which happen to be 2 pictures of us that i begged her to scan in and i assume she only caved in because i was in a bad mood that week. considering the fact that we live on opposite coasts and email at least daily, not to mention phone, it is impressive how minimal our facebook wall to wall is.
also, the blog entry was ALL ABOUT HER, so i am not at all surprised that she commented ... but on my facebook wall?
3) greg desfor - schoolmate from 5th - 12th grade, most intensely while being side partners in 10th grade pre-algebra
greg desfor once made me an oragami bird out of a dollar bill for my birthday. this is less characteristic of our relationship and more of him. we are not in communication. as the blog entry was about high school, it is acceptable for him to make a comment on the extent to which i was racist at that time.
but on my facebook wall?
4) nathan young - craigslist personals acquisition
sometime in the beginning of this year i put up a personal ad on craigslist and he responded. i was initially very excited as he is an attractive, cerebral, half black jew. his last facebook album was images of him with his favorite foods:
because delicious is obviously one fast route to my heart, this album actually made me re-consider my decision not to meet him, though i ultimately came to my original conclusion: he seems to be and prefer the young rock star life style (playing hard, drinking, tattoos, being social in loud sweaty places) while i like to be an old lady (working hard, drinking tea, shawls, and being anti social in bed).
we have never actually met and/or kept up communication, but out of the blue he complimented my post ... on my facebook wall.
while this is very nice, i see no obvious explanation as to why my facebook wall is the unanimously chosen venue for blog commenting.
i want to say this is an interesting comment on the intertexuality of social netwwworking, but i don't know what the comment is, let alone where the appropriate place is for the comment.
i have no answers, only a plan to post the url to this blog entry on all four of their walls.
next time: less words, more interesting!
to assure the readers of my appreciation, as well as, admittedly, spike the quantity, i changed the title of the blog to "i'll admit it, i just really want you to comment."
after two years of of being MIA, i was concerned that my newest entry would go unread, and worse, un commented upon.
i decided the best way to alert those interested in all things judy was to change my facebook status.
since immediately after the post no comments had been made, i was forced to neurotically check the amount of views feature on my flickr pictures and blog profile to guage my self worth.
it was clear that people were viewing ... but silently - i wondered if people didn't want to confess viewership.
days later, four (4) comments surfaced - i am, if not confused, at least surprised at the change in commenting form.
my facebook wall?
a small digression: i am (as with everything else) excessively neurotic about facebook wall posting. i feel like it originates from the friendster testimonial feature - allowing you to talk about that person to other people viewing their page.
ex: "judy spends too much energy on meta blog entries and instead should try to be a decent human being and call her grandmother."
but wall posting in it's ugliest form has morphed into an unabashed way of having other people see your communication with a person, which i can only assume is a way to show how close/cool you two are.
ex: "remember that time 2952302 boys asked for our number but we didn't even NOTICE because we were really engaged in talking about postmodernism?"
how is this excusable? it is the same amount of ease to wall post as it is to message - so there is a clear intention in wall posting that i personally can only condone for myself in very limited situations. (though, obviously, i LOVE it when people post on my wall)
so, in light of the fact that i am equally obsessed with the concept of wall posting and the wish of people to comment on my blog, but am confused at how these two have merged, i have no choice but to go through my comments from least to most surprising.
1) berna conner - my sister's bestie
technologically, the only thing berna seems to do more avidly than blog is facebook. this makes me feel alright about my own excessive facebooking, as she is not remotely lame. also, she's hot. see?:
as most of my wall posts are love from berna, it makes the most sense that she would find my facebook wall the most natural place to express love of my blog update. i still find it a little strange, but not disconcerting.
2) amy preiser - my bestie
amy overcompensates for how uncool facebooking is by intentionally honing the image of her extremely limited facebook participation. she has only once uploaded pictures on facebook, which happen to be 2 pictures of us that i begged her to scan in and i assume she only caved in because i was in a bad mood that week. considering the fact that we live on opposite coasts and email at least daily, not to mention phone, it is impressive how minimal our facebook wall to wall is.
also, the blog entry was ALL ABOUT HER, so i am not at all surprised that she commented ... but on my facebook wall?
3) greg desfor - schoolmate from 5th - 12th grade, most intensely while being side partners in 10th grade pre-algebra
greg desfor once made me an oragami bird out of a dollar bill for my birthday. this is less characteristic of our relationship and more of him. we are not in communication. as the blog entry was about high school, it is acceptable for him to make a comment on the extent to which i was racist at that time.
but on my facebook wall?
4) nathan young - craigslist personals acquisition
sometime in the beginning of this year i put up a personal ad on craigslist and he responded. i was initially very excited as he is an attractive, cerebral, half black jew. his last facebook album was images of him with his favorite foods:
because delicious is obviously one fast route to my heart, this album actually made me re-consider my decision not to meet him, though i ultimately came to my original conclusion: he seems to be and prefer the young rock star life style (playing hard, drinking, tattoos, being social in loud sweaty places) while i like to be an old lady (working hard, drinking tea, shawls, and being anti social in bed).
we have never actually met and/or kept up communication, but out of the blue he complimented my post ... on my facebook wall.
while this is very nice, i see no obvious explanation as to why my facebook wall is the unanimously chosen venue for blog commenting.
i want to say this is an interesting comment on the intertexuality of social netwwworking, but i don't know what the comment is, let alone where the appropriate place is for the comment.
i have no answers, only a plan to post the url to this blog entry on all four of their walls.
next time: less words, more interesting!
Labels: besties, blogging, comments, craislist, facebook, oragami, pre algebra, self worth
posted by judyprays at 4:32 PM
3 Comments:
well, as my girlfriend will attest, i am actually a giant nerd with a quasi-accidental charm who just happens to enjoy playing hard.
i like your blog. you almost make me want to finish rewriting all my entries and start writing new ones, but i've long accepted the fact that i will never be motivated enough to do so. the blogger-audience relationship is the cruelest and most unrequited love i know.
just for the record, you responded to my craigslist posting and remain the only person of substance i've ever come across on that circus of a website. oh the sordid love affair we could have had...
you're a class act, judy prays. i think i'll keep reading.
Blogger was being a dick and kept timing out.
Hence, facebook.
Judith,
Facebook wall posts are not for conversations, but rather for a facebook friend to signal to the respective person that they are indeed thinking about them. (Although the "facebook-whore" who carries on wall convos an obviously exception).
In my particular case, I was scanning through status updates of friends. Indeed I still do consider Judy a friend, albeit we have not seen each other for roughly 4 years. Bu I digress. In the case of an outlandish status that mentions racism, I was naturally drawn to uncover the hidden mysterious past of Judith Prays. After spending a good time on this blog, I had to post an equally (!!!) comment. Thus due to the prolonged exposure of Judy's "racist" comments, by comparison my wall comment (publicly viewable no less) is tame.
I think you should be a writer Judy.
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